Deciding where to draw the line became clearer when they became parents. "I'm a mother first," Riva says. To which Solomon adds, "There's great power in saying 'no.'" What none of them have grown comfortable with are arrogant and rude attitudes. "My pet peeve is people who are blatantly inconsiderate," Solomon says. "So many people feel they have a sense of entitlement here. They act as if they own the town.
"We deal with people who have a lot of anxiety and tension, but many of them feel their human rights are more important than another person's. I'm not a receptacle for that. My approach is, 'Look, we're going to deal as professionals here. We are going to handle this ethically and decently.'"
Thornton says nasty attitudes are particularly prevalent in auditions. Other actors vying for the same roles get right up in their faces to throw off their concentration, hoping they'll botch their performances.
"Even in the waiting room before you go in, people try to sabotage you," he says. "That was a lesson for me to learn. CCM had taught us to be respectful."
"It's unbelievable what you'll see in that audition room," Riva concurs. But it goes beyond the attitudes to a complete lack of discipline, as well, she says.
"I've had directors tell me, 'Thank God, you just came in and did the piece.' People come into auditions and want to talk about their dog or try out their standup routine. At CCM, it was all about demeanor, about this being a business transaction. CCM disciplined us to compete."
Competition, of course, can be cruel. Her most painful incident was losing the role of the older sister in "Ugly Betty" last year.
"I was the only one in contention for the role," she says. "I was the only one going to test. Then all of a sudden, they called to say that the part had to be drop-dead beautiful, so I was out. To be told that you are right for the part artistically, but you're not pretty enough, there's nothing that gets under my skin more."
Fortunately, CCM did train her for those kinds of blows, too. "CCM helped me develop some seriously thick skin," she says. "They tried to shred us apart and build us back up," Solomon says bluntly. "I've got third-degree burns from Aubrey Berg (the musical theater chairman).
"But they gave us confidence. You need self-confidence out here, or you're going to get blown around in these winds. You're going to get uprooted."
The trio's willingness to put up with constant rejection, rudeness and uncertainty may indicate they have indeed landed dream jobs, but a more obvious sign may be the fact that they unanimously agree they would keep working even if they didn't need the money.
Riva is the one who posed the question: "If you won the lottery -- which is now at $10-15 million -- would you still do this?" "I wouldn't change a thing," Thornton immediately replied.
Then he started getting excited over ways he could help out struggling actors who are still in those lean years. "I would give money away to a lot of the friends who are really struggling out there," Thornton offered. "I'd say, 'Go take those acting classes that you've wanted but couldn't take because you work so much. Here's a hundred thousand."
Solomon said he would use the money to start his own acting company. And the ever-idealistic Thornton added that they wouldn't even be worried about filling the house. "It wouldn't matter," he said.
Playing with the philanthropic possibilities that wealth would give them, the two men turned the question back on Riva. Would she keep working if she won the jackpot? "You betcha!" she exclaimed without a blink.